Dating is an advanced form of friendship which most young people enjoy even better than the elders. Why? The elders seem to be occupied with work activities whereas the younger ones have enough time for themselves. Friends share experiences as well as joy and grief. That is similar to what people do when dating. There are other stuffs they don’t have in common. At a point in time, I thought kissing was for couples but it is actually not the case. I hear people say, “I mistakenly kissed my best friend who is a guy but we didn’t intend to go that far”. Seriously! Loll!

Some people establish and maintain really nice friendship which easily attracts the attention of the world. It requires effort and interest. It is the interest that causes you to focus on its improvement.

“Girl-Girl” friendship, girls “Guy-Guy” friendship guys1 and “Girl-Guy” friendship both  are the forms of friendship that I know of among human beings. The most sensitive of all is the “Girl-Guy” friendship which we mostly have this misconception about. We are so smart to sense or suspect otherwise whenever we notice a girl and a guy together often. In some cases, we may be right about it but in others, we are nowhere near the truth. I understand it is based on past information where a guy and girl gets together and in no time, something else goes on. I also know that, some individuals get together with the intention of moving into the advanced which is dating and later realize that they are not meant to be in such a relationship. They were actually made to put you and me to shame. Hahaa … According to research, most people have at least an ex before marriage in this era. The first one fails and they tend to improve upon their mistakes in the next in order to maintain it or lead them into marriage. The same research made me understand that exs don’t really have nice relationships and it can’t even be compared to real friendship. It’s all because;

  1. They may have undergone some deadly heartbreak and decided never to meet again…..OR
  2. Their new partners see exs as threats….OR
  3. They have a policy that says, “Never contact an ex in life because they are in the past”.

Usually number 2 holds. We get frightened each time our partners contact their exs because we know they had feelings for each other sometime ago and it could be rejuvenated should they meet and remind each other of the good times they shared. There are stubborn partners who would get in touch with their exs and even hangout no matter what happens. But have you noticed they seldom complain about mere friendship?

If we continue acting this way, we will lose our good friends. That is why I advise, we never date the people we wish to keep as friends. You may argue that your partner pays less attention to that but you should also know that there is a limit to patience. Otherwise, he may not be interested in the future of your relationship.



  1. What always strikes me is that there seems to be some kind of relationships law of nature that says we must get our hearts broken at least once before we find a stable and lasting relationship. In my case (as I think is often the case) it was after the break up with my first love. Thanks for your post,

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