THE “S.P.E.G.A.T.F.I.C.” AS SIGNS OF BREAK-UPS

THE POWERFUL 9 BREAK-UP SIGNS
KNOW THE S.P.E.G.A.T.F.I.C

The abbreviation stands for the following:
SECRETS
PROVISIONS
EFFORTS
GOALS
ACCEPTANCE
TRUST
FIGHTS
INDEPENDENCE
CONTACT

YOU AND YOUR PARTNER. BEFORE THE ISSUES DISCUSSED BELOW…

 

1. PARTNERS WITH SECRETS
Why should you be in a relationship and have secrets? Once you have agreed to be together and share each other’s love, you have automatically decided to share ideas too. I think there is nothing like confidentiality in the ethics of dating. It is an arrangement between the lady and the guy to know each other very well before they come together forever. So at the initial stages, you realize they take delight in sharing their day’s encounter with each other. The ladies most especially have the habit of doing that. So my guys, with this, you may easily tell when something goes wrong. The interest will be lost once it reaches the declining stage. Here, you wouldn’t see the essence of sharing experiences anymore with the excuse that, it isn’t necessary to talk about.

2.LESS PROVISIONS IN THE RELATIONSHIP
At the early stage of a relationship, partners tend to assist each other in almost everything they get involved with, the guy offers a helping hand in the kitchen, assists in shopping and cleaning. They usually provide advisory and consultancy services to each other. Gradually, when you realize a change of style, then you note that something is going wrong. It could also be as a result of busy schedules but you need to do your underground research if it persists so as to confirm it. Once you get to know that it is a deliberate act, you should note it down.

3. LESS EFFORTS
Sacrifice is key in relationships. You can always assure your partner of your love if you make him or her feel that they can always do away with something, no matter what it may take in order to save the relationship. Boyfriend or Girlfriend begins to give excuses for not organizing a meeting which is unusual. They will work several hours only to prevent each other from meeting. You see no sign of effort to make the relationship interesting You should be quick to note this down as a sign of a possibility of the relationship not working out.

4. SEPARATE GOALS
As lovers who have agreed willingly to date, there is always one main objective. They usually work and head towards getting married someday. Those who are really fond of each other make plans together. They make plans as to how their future should be like. Some go to the extent of deciding on the number of children to have and the kind of quality education to give them. Why would your partner lose the interest in talking or hearing about this all of a sudden? Why would your partner avoid issues concerning your future together? Having separate goals in a relationship gradually leads to a separation.

5. LACK OF ACCEPTANCE OF EACH OTHER
Sometime back your partner used to admire a particular style of yours, the colour of your hair, your nose or your eyes. For sometime now you noticed he either forgets or decides not to complement you. My dear, in a relationship, every tiny change should be noted down because it is very necessary. If you realize that you don’t seem to like something you really liked or cared about your partner, then perhaps the relationship heads towards a danger zone because you can’t just change your preferences all of a sudden without any modifications because, the particular thing you loved hasn’t changed in nature, it is still the same.

6.LOSS OF TRUST
In relation to the points discussed above, Without trust, you would not see the importance of sharing your ideas, goals and love with your partner. Firstly, you don’t trust him or her, what then will make you trust the relationship or its future? You could have lost the trust as a result of the occurrence of something. Why can’t you just let it go and pretend nothing happened and probably start afresh in your mind in order t make things work out? If you find yourself reading your partner’s text messages when he or she isn’t around then I think it’s best if you quit the dating because it is not a sign of a healthy relationship.

7. Dirty fight
In every relationship, there are some spices of quarrel and misunderstanding between the parties. It becomes weird when they both begin to fight publicly, using their weakness against them for the public to know and all sorts of abusive words. They end up being embarrassed. Who will dare hurt the feelings of a loved one?

8. DESIRE FOR INDEPENDENCE
Why should you be in a relationship and wish you were a bachelor? Why should you claim you love someone and desire for your past relationships? Why should you be dating and fantasize about how fun it was when you were alone? Why should your partner be available and yet you never want to hangout with him instead, you prefer being alone or with friends?

9. LESS CONTACT
There is always a feeling to hear from a loved one. The anxiety to know how he or she is faring in the morning and to know every movement is always encouraging. As it disappears or minimizes in nature, you just have to note it down so as to make a move. You realize that, even when your partner calls you over your cell phone, you feel reluctant to respond. You feel it is a distraction somehow.

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